Many men have died in the line of “masculine duty” in the recent past. This loss in action increased with the advent of the blue pill. The pill, initially developed for patients with heart diseases, is now more famous for turbo boosting horizontal gymnastics. Enhancing erection was only a side effect of a rejuvenated heartbeat.
Whoever invented romantic love heaped a heavy performance burden on men, leaving women with a sentimental burden of enjoying sex. Don’t get me wrong, the consequences of sex are huge on women.
Men must invest a lot in terms of looks, language and money to facilitate dates and pray they get lucky. Women just need to look good to enhance the value of potential mate to get laid.
However, women let enjoy sex as because conception, which fulfils their innate nurturing role, comes with a heavier burden carried over a long period. Men, on the other hand, have to work harder to pass their seed.
Despite this struggle, social media is unforgiving of the so-called “one minute men”. Insulted for their stamina in bed, some look for shortcuts.
Men on the other hand are asking fellow men to be wary of killing themselves (sometimes literally) while mining for an orgasm.
It is now called “wantam” – after the call to President William Ruto to go for one term.
Men don’t have to struggle to go for more rounds if they cannot naturally sustain it.
In the face of erectile dysfunction, a one-minute man is king. Modern life of high stress, long working hours seated and poor food quality has diminished the testosterone levels of men.
Modern man is a domesticated man where man in his element is wild. Our forefathers were hunting for food, they were succeeded by long distance walkers for trade, war and grazing animals. All this worked at building the tenets of masculinity.
Meanwhile, the modern man can make a living from the comfort of his living room. He then goes for a coffee date and then an evening out drinking with his boys.
He drives around and will rarely be seen in the gym despite his employer paying for an annual subscription.
Women on the other hand were supposed to appear, and nurture the children.
Upending the order
The modern world has sent women to the production line which has made them aggressive. They also earn a decent a living, which has made the providing role of men secondary.
This is where the conflict comes in, the aggressive ladies want more “electricity” from men. Meanwhile, the domesticated men cannot provide enough, transformers are blowing up by the day.
The main role of ejaculation is to pass the gene carrying male seed into the woman for purposes of conception and propagation of the human race.
Evolution made ejaculation period short so as to maximise the transfer. If the period was long, chances of interruption were high, and with it loss of chances of procreation.
When ejaculation becomes limited, especially after the age of 40 for men, then pressure come in. This is also the age women are counting down time to menopause. So the pressure is real to maximise chances of procreation.
The secret could be in elongating to mating time. However, the pressures of provision for men and women leaves people tired and there is no time of setting aside the whole day or night just for love making. Thus men can easily fall into the trap of enhancement drugs.
On the other front, female orgasm has no direct link to conception hence evolutionary useless. Yet, romantic love places women sexual fulfilment above the man’s satisfaction.
A popular influencer asked old women in the village if they have ever had an orgasm and the responses were surprising. They did not know what that is. The modern woman is putting too much pressure on men in terms of performance in bed.
However, orgasm for both men and women works to reinforce sexual behaviour by making it fun and enjoyable. It also promotes pair bonding by releasing feel good hormones which helps to promote between partners.
This is critical because the human baby requires significant parental investment for survival.
The irony is this function is debatable in the modern world of serial monogamy.
People have moved from one sexual partner for a lifetime to one sexual partner at a time but several in a lifetime.
To mitigate the pressure to perform in bed, men should look at living healthy lifestyles than the quick fix of performance drugs.